One of my goals is to have weekends filled with plans and fun activities pretty much to avoid weekends like the one we just had. Sitting at my computer for hours on end researching something fun for all of us to do together.  I felt so frustrated and stuck that I couldn’t find anything that not only we would ALL agree on, but that I could get myself excited about.

You’d think living here in NYC we wouldn’t have this issue, right?!?⠀
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The whole problem was I couldn’t decide.  I was stuck in research mode, trying to find something perfect that would inspire me.
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Finally at 7:30 Sunday eve I said that’s it – I’m going out! All it took was a decision to take action. I got dressed, got in my car with the intention of going to the High Line. As I was driving down the West Side Highway I noticed how picturesque the Hudson River looked so it inspired me to take a detour and get off at the 79th St. Boat Basin. ⠀

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My mood instantly changed!  Taking action, a change of scenery, nice weather and camera in hand.⠀I was inspired by the view and used that time to be creative with my camera.  When it got too dark, I headed over to the nearby Barnes & Noble and browsed through magazines and cookbooks – more creative inspiration!!

All it took was for me to get out of my own way, make a decision and not wait to please everyone.

If you find yourself stuck, feeling paralyzed and frustrated – whether it’s business or personal – take note of it and just DECIDE and TAKE ACTION – no matter how small and imperfect!

Step away from the computer, get yourself out of research mode and get into DOING mode!

If you’re still trying to decide about signing up for SUMMER of YOUR SUCCESS – good news – it’s like Christmas in July!  I extended the early bird investment price through the end of July!  Check it out here and of course if you have any questions, email me!

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Does this ever happen to you?

You know there’s something you could be doing that will help move you towards reaching your goals for your business.

It could be creating a great valuable post for Instagram or your blog, something you want to write in your newsletter or online groups, a new product offering that you know your clients will love, developing an amazing idea for a workshop or even learning a new skill.

You put it on your to-do list and that’s where it sits for days.  Maybe those days are now turning into weeks or even months.  Each day it nags at you and you know you should start working on it but you find every excuse in the book to avoid it.

Things like…

I have to check my email.

I have to check what’s going on in my Facebook Groups.

I have to see how many new Instagram followers I have.

I have to go to the bathroom.

Time to start making dinner!

I’m too tired – I couldn’t possibly focus on it now!

Sound familiar?

This is called resistance.  You are resisting something that you know is to your benefit but it will somehow take you out of your comfort zone….and your brain definitely doesn’t want that!

Anyone can stay the same. It takes courage to change.

– John Assaraf

This happens to me on a regular basis but the other day I was listening to a training by personal development expert John Assaraf on the topic of resistance and that’s when ti hit me and I became FULLY AWARE of my actions!  Right then and there I was smack in the middle of one of my resistance episodes.!

It was later in the evening after my girls had gone to bed and I had intended to go on my computer to write a blog post.  But first I made a slight detour to my In Box  This led to a string of other time sucking activities.  By now I felt waaay too tired to gather my thoughts together to write a valuable post, so instead I decided to open up Photoshop and edit some recent personal photos.

Helloooooo!  If I was too tired to write, why wasn’t I too tired to edit images?

Once I became aware of what I was doing, I realized that Photoshop is my happy place – my comfort zone.  But spending hours in Photoshop is not going to help me reach my goals or grow my business.  (It would be a different story if my business was photo editing).

Once you become aware that you’re in resistance mode, it’s helpful to figure out  how it’s taking you out of your comfort zone – what is it that you fear?

In my example, I was making writing the post seem too big.  Fear of taking a lot of time.  Writing, editing, looking for a photo to go with the post, creating the featured image for the post, etc.  Then beyond that it could be a fear of being visible, being judged, thinking “does what I have to say even matter to anyone else?” (besides my mom, of course)

I’m telling you – awareness is key to busting through resistance.  The things you are resisting are usually the most important things you could be doing.

Become aware first.

Write out your fears

Then go and do it anyway regardless of the fears!

Each time you do the thing you resist, you are stretching your comfort zone making things that much easier for you.

Not to mention a shorter to-do list!

What is it that you are currently resisting?

“Manifest” is a relatively new word for me – only in the past couple of years have I taken notice of that word and now it’s one of my favorites!

In the woo woo world it seems to mean to make things appear but the official definition is:  “display or show (a quality or feeling) by one’s acts or appearance; demonstrate.”

My left brain / right brain battle needs evidence of the meaning on both sides.  To me it means when you want something and then you make it happen.

Before I even knew what the word was, I realized I was able to manifest some crazy things.  The way I see it is like this:

• You start with a strong desire for something
• You think about it as if it’s already happened – almost to an obsessive point but in a joyful way
• You take inspired action because you believe it’s going to happen
• Crazy coincidences happen along the way
• Your desire is manifested!

Sounds fun, right?  Here are 2 favorite examples from my own life:

Back in 2008 when we were living in FL I made the final decision that we were going to finally move back home to NY – NO MATTER WHAT!  I did everything in preparation – found a realtor to sell our house, painted, staged and packed up our house for moving,  and a million other things along the way.  I was completely unstoppable!  Within a couple of weeks of having our house up for sale, we got a cash buyer AND a 3 bedroom apartment became available in my sister’s building back in NY for us to move into.  Amazing!

My second favorite story was a couple of years ago when I decided I wanted to be in my first NYC gallery show for my photography work.   I joined a program with B&H Photo for portfolio development with the hopes of my work being chosen for the gallery show.  The program lasted about 6 months and I took all the steps necessary that were part of the program.  The photo shoots that I did at that time were my most creative and most fun to date.  Coincidentally, during that time I won a printer and a pack of the exact paper that I needed to print my work to submit to the gallery.  My work was selected and I had my first gallery show in NYC!

I love practicing my manifesting skills which is why I’m so excited for Denise Duffield Thomas‘ 5 Day Manifesting Challenge starting today!

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She’s the owner of Lucky Bitch – she’s a manifesting queen especially when it comes to money.  I’m part of her money boot camp program and I’m also thrilled to be an affiliate!  She’s so down to earth and inspiring and I want more women to know about her and the amazing things she’s doing.

So, wanna join me in her manifesting challenge?  It will be so much fun to see what we come up with!

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